Just as a datapoint, I recently did a rebuild of a couple of ESP32-S3 with Ethernet, and assuming the esp-idf toolchain was used (now the default for ESP32) things work as a BLE-Proxy with it.
reverserd back to platformio but the problems remains, at this point should be the changes intruduced with version 2026.7 for the bt proxy… i’m going to reinstall the 2026.6 version
Since your problem is not toolchain related, you likely need to post your whole code if you want suggestions here. Also have a look at your esphome logs for further hints of the issue.