Normally I have no qualms helping new users, and I have helped hundreds, but I have made it a policy to avoid those whose very first post represents one or more of the following:
- Is a rant.
- Expresses more frustration than any useful information.
- Threatens to give up.
- Refuses to read documentation.
- Unwilling to supply critical information.
- Doesn’t comply with the guidelines in the FAQ.
- Their failure is the fault of everything except them.
All I can offer is what I tell others in the same situation:
Home Assistant is for hobbyists and requires a sizeable investment of one’s time and effort. It’s not for casual users and so you may wish to consider selecting something else or redoubling efforts to learn it.
I wish you the best of luck!