Help with finding simplest zigbee dongle and repeaters to configure aqara motion sensors with 5 second sleep time (giving up on aqara and additional zigbee hubs I bought)

FYI if such attributes are configurable might be a limitation of that specific Aqara device firmware so just be aware that is might be a limitation of the device and not a limitation of the Zigbee gateway. Read → Xiaomi & Aqara Devices - Pairing & Keeping them connected - Devices - Hubitat

Suggest buying ITead’s “Sonoff Zigbee 3.0 USB Dongle Plus” (model “ZBDongle-P”) as a Zigbee Coordinator for use with HA’s built-in ZHA integration → Zigbee Home Automation - Home Assistant

If get the “ZBDongle-P” (and not the "ZBDongle-E”) then it is CC2652 based so you have the alternative to later migrate to Zigbee2MQTT (a.k.a. Z2M) if want more advanced Zigbee gateway solution.

If you will mostly have wireless Zigbee sensors then they will not work as Zigbee routers so recommend buying at least three “known good” dedicated Zigbee Router devices → Zigbee networks: how to guide for avoiding interference and optimize for getting better range + coverage

Optimizing your setup and having many Zigbee Router devices isvery important for the battery life.