First of all, I was already taking part in the conversation.
Secondly, I just can’t stand behaviour that was presented here, that’s why I decided to react. Believe it or not, I was trying to be delicate and my first comment about the other person was way friendlier than my initial reaction. I was hoping they could take a minute to think about what they are doing.
Later, after their further comment I realised I’m wasting my time and that they didn’t just made a mistake, but that’s who they are and how they act normally. So I didn’t reply, not too fuel the pointless discussion. Until OP came back and was gaslighted, I again felt I should support them. End of story, I’m not going to participate in this discussion further.
That’s great for you. I hope it brings you a lot of joy, I’m serious. 50 hours a week is more than a full time job, it’s a really huge part of your life. It’s probably most if not all of your free time. You must have helped thousands of people and I’m sure they all appreciate it.
But please, if it ever gets to the point where it starts feeling like a job, where you feel you have to do it even though you don’t really want to, take a step back, get a break or maybe quit completely.
For the context, I’ve been part of various community places, volunteered a lot of my time and managed volunteers a lot, both as volunteer and in my professional work. It’s not easy. People volunteering a lot of their time can get frustrated and burned out, in my experience this is even bigger risk than in a paid job. I know very well it can be very addictive, intoxicating, that feeling you get when you managed to answer someone’s difficult question. It’s making it so hard to get some distance.
Anyway, it was really not my original intention to write this much here. I recognize the symptoms in my own behaviour, I was spending to much time in the last days here. So I will listen to my own advice and will get a break. I do really wish this community all the best and if anyone feels offended by what I wrote above, I apologize.