Good time to ‘disconnect’ from the 
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The esp-world is very interesting, from Tasmota to ESPHome to native code with Arduino libs, ESP libs or MicroPython allows creating some interesting solutions.
While I am still debating the safety of this board in ‘production’ use, I am finding it very interesting. A mains powered esp32 in a form factor that fits in a USA wall box for USD 9 with shipping cost. You might try a couple, delivery was under 2 weeks to USA. I can experiment with attaching stuff to it with it powered by low voltage and disconnected from mains using a usb serial programmer and then when I have something working, disconnect from usb and computer and power with mains (then can change code using OTA updates).
If you get your press working, queue me up for a tee-shirt 
I’m interested to hear your experience with the AVATTO no-neutral solution, I have been experimenting and finding some mixed results:
AC Powered 1R ESP32-WROOM WIFI Bluetooth BLE Single Relay Development Board Module
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