I think we have a similar experience on computer world, and I’m not an adept of the “click and go”.
I indeed look for the flexibility, but even more for reliability. I’m an old guy, and machine have to totally under human control, not the reverse reason why I want full and total control of my environments, even more on such one, which may have impact on my privacy, if not correctly secured.
That’s why I bought a Raspberry 4 - 8GB and an USB-3 SSD of 1TB.
That will make the system faster and also reliable.
My current config does not allow me to update the server, there are some errors somewhere.
Bref, I’ll save my current config parameters and restart from scratch.
Debian interest me, as I get full control on the security parameters and monitoring, the “all-in-one” also, but the security eventual issues make me dubious …
But your arguments are also valuable, …