LIGHTING
On/Off/Dim or lots of LED lighting scenes?
What are your thoughts about zwave?
Look at GE model 14294 dimmer and 14291 switch.
Zwave LED controllers are also available
AUDIO
Check this link. I have others Best Lights and Audio fully compatible with Home Assistant
MOTORIZED DRAPES
Pella and others window companies have products for this but this is budget dependant. Also some other products but this likely starts with convo about if this is new or existing window and access. It sounds like all walls coming down possibly?
HVAC
Unfortunately you get stuck in 2 scenario
Scenario 1
You get Variable speed HVAC unit and are required to use their model. In this case there may be 3rd party Integration to HA. In this case you may also find it unnecessary to control since variable speed is so low energy set and forget is easier or only need change with season. Basically just local program. You can use other sensor for detect ON/OFF or temps if desired, same as you may do washer/dryer.
Scenario 2
Standard HVAC. Just get Trane XR524.
Nest is OK but the API and support may change any day. Design home using products whose API is open and guaranteed 20yr min support. This is not important for things like TV or microwave but some things should work next 20yrs without any programming or update needed and work offline(no WAN). This is true for light switches, AC control and security.
VIDEO DOORBELL
Doorbird. Best for gated access
DIY. Just put security camera and send image on doorbell press. I use push notification that show in notification tray
Ring and Nest will eventually fail you or limit you as API changes or product support changes. They are also ugly and do not look part of home. This is also user specific and may work out in your case.
If you have many unknown guest 2way comm may be needed. Doorbird can possibly use SIP for this. Nest and Ring have this but Integration with HA can get hit/miss so expect to use their app for this. If 2way not needed I think you can use security cam at front door to fill this scenario. Especially small home vs large home(7000+ sqft) or gated access where communication to door may be desired since walking there takes much time.
SECURITY
This is complicated.
I installed alarms for years and in past I was strong hardwire everything guy for security. Then I move to home where this was simple too time consuming a demand(concrete walls everywhere and that was smallest issue).
You use standard Ademco units that are everywhere. I believe it has LAN control modules or some other easily integrated method for connection. With this you could hardwire. You’ll need to research product then speak to security pro in area to get system installed. The HA integration after will need.to be planned but should be simple.
I use zwave and actually find it great. I still prefer wiredndoors but this is cosmetic reason but a good installer can recess contacts and remote mount sensor on door/window frame more appealing location.
Raspberry PI/Arduino is option but really could be support nightmare for you.
CAMERAS
You can integrate anything into HA as long as cameras are IP. My only suggestion here is DO NOT ALLOW THEM WAN ACCESS and limit their LAN access which bring up your network.
NETWORK
Not sure what your using now but this may be good.time to review the products and setup