ESP Relay setup suggestions

Hi,
I need to install some relays to be controlled using ESPHome, but I am confused what boards and relays I should buy … it seems the options are endless.

I would prefer a board having an RJ45 rather than using WiFi although if that is too complicated WiFi is not an issue. Also I would like to power the board with a USB cable.
Should I get a board having the ESP and Relays installed or else use a dev board and use jumpers?

Any suggestions or else step by step tutorials?
(I am not new to ESPHome I have some motion and temp sensors around)