focus: true is set by default. Are you sure you’re looking at the map card which you add manually to the dashboard, and not the map panel which is shown in the sidebar?
I presume you’ve set up home assistant in some way so that it is available externally? Otherwise your location will not be available when you leave home.
Thanks all, I looked at what I have an it looks like all I need to do is remove MY device from that particular map and it will stay focused on her phone.
Simplest solution for my application, so I should be good.
Not quite. You could simply drop into yaml mode and add focus: false for your device. Then you should be able to focus on your wife by default AND see yourself if you zoom out too.