New and need help connecting esp device to esphome

Hi, I am trying to do a simple test of getting a esp devise connected to esphome but having no end of pain. I have installed ESPHome version: 2022.2.6 and have connected a esp device to the usb port. when I select new device I get two options, first using esphome and the other manually. By using esphome it installs but is not found. I have spend hours trying to get this to work but no luck. Any help would be great.

After it installs you see logs scrolling on your screen. Tell us what they say.