Like many of you, I have struggled with getting devices to connect to Matter. I was originally on the docker version, but I moved to HA Yellow recently. I expected to immediately have the Matter connection issues fixed, but I kept having issues. I read every article and blog post and watched every YouTube video I could.
Then, deep in a forum post, I came upon a suggestion to configure the Yellow for thread (Enabling Thread). Since I use Zigbee2MQTT, I was not concerned about losing Zigbee connectivity to the Yellow. I followed the instructions, and Thread was enabled.
I then went back to add a Matter device (the Aqara U200), and it added in about 5 seconds. It had been timing out, failing to add device, etc., for at least a month. I tried Aqara to HA, Aqara to HomeKit then to HA, etc. I was only able to get as far as Aqara to HomeKit, but I could never connect the device to HA.
The solution was not obvious to me, so I am passing it along to anyone who may find it helpful. Best of luck!