Hello, my english is bad so i may write wrong, sorry.
I want to control my relay with both button and switch via esp home but I can’t. I don’t know if the commands are not working but can you help please
Not only you English is bad then, your pictures and yaml coding posting is also very bad 
haha.
Can you post the full esphome yaml code and a more clear picture of the wiring?
Is ht esphome correctly integrated in you homeassitant already? can you see the entities and the state?
There is a jumper on the relay board. make sure it is on the picture.
Use the formatting button to format the code well when you post it here.