I feel for you guy, very frustrating! In the babble below, I will give you some of my background and current state in hopes that it helps you.
tl;dr:
Your Q 1: my experience and gut say that the Deco mesh will handle 100+ devices.
Your Q 2: my setup uses Mikrotik devices for routing, dhcp, routing and firewall. Deco’s are only WiFi Access points in my setup. So using Deco for all functions is not something I have experience with. My gut however says, Deco will be better for all functions than (as I understand your setup) your Verizon device.
Hard to peer into your setup, however it does sound like from your current report here, that the change to the Omada system has NOT addressed some of the core issues you were having. And combine this with having to learn this new complex Omada stuff… not fun. Other than one period when I was trying a NetGear WiFi solution in my too many evolutions, I have never had multiple IoT devices of various kinds have connection issues. I still wonder about DHCP setup in your network, this based on some ‘mysteries’ I have see in networks over my crusty old years… If you can expand on your MQTT server setup more, that help folks visualize your setup. As I understand your setup, relying on your Verizon device to provide as many services as it is doing for the number of devices you have does see a possible source of problems. Other than the complexity of the Omada system (as I understand it, with no first hand experience, but projecting my Mikrotik, UniFI and OpenWRT experience on to it), the Omada might be able to address you issues, if you can KISS it to start and make sure that you move all services away from the Verizon device. One of the biggest road blocks I have found with networking setups in Home Automation is that this is the area where it is the most difficult (if not impossible) to have a complete production and test environments. And as a result, in my experience, I end of f’ing up my production network with a ‘small’ change in some part of these complex systems like Omada, Mikrotik, Unifi and OpenWRT.
Yes, I would leverage the Amazon and Costco return policies as part of you path to success. If you have a simple enough WiFi AP setup and Verizon setup, you might be able to move back and forth between solutions and see which find the most optimal. But getting that Verizon device to be nothing more than a bridge device to your ISP should be part of you path, the ISP provide device should be providing NO network services in your end setup.
First up, I am so far happy with my TP-Link three access point setup with the BE16000 units. Is it the ideal setup that I would like to have, NO. As I stated, it is frustrating compromise that is reality of this changing world of home technology.
As picture shows below, I average around 60 wifi connected devices, with about 25 wired devices. Not quite to the numbers you are looking at, however the TP-Link setup seems to be handling this number without problems. Of course, me having right at 60 device on WiFi is an unfortunate number based on your problems
An important note, I am using the TP-Link devices as access points, they are not servering as my DHCP server, DNS server, Firewall, ZeroTier VPN or any internal routing services. All of these are still being handled by my 2 Mikrotik devices.
I was able to swap the WiFi services from the Mikrotik device to the TP-Link devices simply by keeping the same AP name and secrets. No changes to any devices to move between the old and new access points. I have the 2.4 and 5 GHz networks mashed together with a single AP name. This has never caused me an issue in many years. The new 6 GHz network (networks?) have a different AP name currently.
I had no devices fail to connect to the new TP-Link access points. I have a pretty fair mix of various ESP 2x and 3x devices running various versions of Tasmota, ESPHome and custom Arduino and Espress SDK code. As well as a number of other MCU devices from a number of other manufactures, such as the various ones under the Tuya family, Tuya firmware and Open Beken firmware. No issues with them staying connected.
I do have three on going connection ‘type’ issues that I am studying with the TP-Link access points. None are show stoppers.
- I have noticed my Google home speaker devices (I have 4, 2 speakers 2 displays) seems to drop off the network and reconnect at random times. I see it happen on the displays maybe once every couple days. They reconnect fine, and so far have not caused any issues with using ‘Hey G’ voice stuff. IMHO, my Google devices have always been ‘different’ with WiFi as well as other network services. For example they are the only devices on my network that have a built in network DHCP reset they do on their own every night. They all 4 connect on 5 GHz, so radio and antenna design might be a factor. To throw more monkey wrench into this, my 5 Apple Homepods would randomly (more frustratingly because I use them for music) drop off the Mikrotik and NetGear access points in the prior iterations, now on the TP-Link Decos they are solid on 5 Ghz, and have shown no drop offs.
- I was unable to get a Acer linux laptop to connect to the 6 GHz network with the Mediatek PCIe WiFi card that it had, as I understand it, this card should have been able to see and connect to the 6 Ghz frequency, however no luck. I swapped the PCIe card for an Intel AX210 card and have been able to use the 6GHz connection to the access points fine. Can I tell you any difference as yet between the 5 GHz and 6 GHz connection as yet, No.
- I have one FOSCAM wifi camera that I could not connect to from the above linux debian laptop after the wifi card swap, until I rebooted the camera. Every other device that connects to the machine worked fine. I have no idea what is source of this anomaly, could have been the Mikrotik inner workings or in the TP-Link interworkings. MAC address of cards was different, however IP addresses were same some maybe some ARP resolution issue some where.
However, again no issues with the bulk of the IoT devices connecting to the TP-Link access points.
Some background on my setup. I am not using any VLAN or separate WiFi networks for my production houses. Do I play around with those on test setups, yes, but not in production. I do do some simple private IP network separation via routing by using routing abilities of the Mikrotik devices.
I think like you and many others trying to get to a stable segregated network setup that allows for easy blocking of devices going out to internet and other unintended internal communication is / has been goal for a number of years and evolution’s of my networks. Still not there and probably will never be ‘complete’.
Good hunting!