Theater lighting triggered with Apple TV

Hi all. I’m brand new to HA world. I’ve been using Alexa to control my lights and I’m trying to put some actual smarts into it with a few automations now. I’m trying to get my living room lights to turn off and on with the Apple TV play/pause state. I’m using node red to watch for state changes on media_player.living_room. The only states I seem to get are playing, paused and idle. Problem is paused also comes up for fast forward/rewind commands. Which triggers my lights to come back on. Also Netflix has previews anytime you stop scrolling around their menus and that sends a playing state. It’s annoying but I can live with it if there’s no fix.

I’ve tried pairing the Apple TV but it gives the same states as when it was auto discovered. Is their another method to connect to it to get more accurate states?