Ok, THIS WORKS.
I ventured into the danger land.
After bricking my danalock by doing it wrong, and I had to send it in for reset, which they kindly did, I tried doing it with the updated HA (0.92.2) where the z-wave config is much better integrated, so I let it choose all it’s own kind of configs, and then after a reboot the AEON Labs Z-Stick Gen 5 was there.
So after poking that with heal, and checking the logs, and everything looked ok, I went into the danalock app on my phone, and set it to z-wave include. I then pressed the “add secure node” on HA, and presto, it was visible.
I then reactivated the ‘include’ mode in the danalock app, and ran the extra service call. Not sure what it does, but hey.
I can now see status in my UI, and I can lock and unlock from the UI as well, weeheee.